When you solve, whether to save marriage or not, you are influenced by inconsistent reasons. Let’s to them confuse you.
1. Most likely, there are areas in which you are very well compatible to the partner. We will admit, you love each other, get on together, but develop with different speed. Or, let us assume, with development that’s all right, but the partner likes you insufficiently. Probably and such that the partner likes you, divides your interests, but its character has changed so that it is difficult to you to get on. So, the problem can appear enough difficult.
Don’t concentrate the attention only on those spheres where at you with the partner all is well. Remember that all three components about which we spoke above are necessary for the happy love union.
There will be people who will tell to you: “doesn’t happen, that all was good”. I answer it so: “It is necessary to try, that all was good, and it will be possible to me, if I correctly choose to myself the partner and I will improve our love”. It is not necessary to expect from the partner that it will appear ideal, but vital that at your relations there were all three basic elements.
2. Probably, all of you still love very much the partner. If the collected anger and insult haven’t managed to cool your love, means, it is very strong. Happens that, being going to get divorced, the person still loves very much the partner, the love in any way doesn’t wish to die.
Don’t wait, while the love will definitively die away, - is possible, you should wait it indefinitely.
SECRET: One love hasn’t enough.
Yes, one love hasn’t enough to consist with the partner in the happy love union. On one love matrimonial relations you will not build. Other two elements are necessary: compatibility and joint development. Much of you for certain had to come up against this situation: you like the person, but it appears insufficiently to save the love union.
3. You don’t wish to harm the children. The reason, of course, very essential and painful. Any parent doesn’t wish to make the children unfortunate. And the sense of guilt remaining after divorce, breaks to the person heart.
I wish to tell to you about it something very important: much more harm to children you cause, if remain in unhappy marriage.
Children want, that their parents were happy, feel the responsibility for troubles of the daddy and mum. It is not necessary to remain in unhappy marriage “for the sake of children”. Thereby you will put them where ??????? damage than if will divorce.
If children see that the partner likes you, they too will learn to like. If the partner doesn’t like you, children will feel unfortunate.
So, only you should decide if you want to get your ex back or not. Wish you love and understanding.
It is almost impossible to escape the cases when you face the how to get your ex back situation. The biggest problem here is that people think too strong about how to get your ex back, instead of putting this whole situation in another way. It is not about how to get your ex back, really. This is about how to make it interesting again.
