Positive Self-Talk
Mon: How much thought do we give to what
we say and what it really means in this life?
I am a HUGE proponent of positive self-talk, as any of my hundreds of
clients and course participants can tell you.
There’s simply no missing that our bodies are a reflection of our
minds. Now this is probably a HUGE
contradiction to what you might have learned, heard and grown to believe by
this point in your life. The billion-dollar
weight loss industry REALLY wants us all to believe that it works the opposite
way – that when our BODIES are okay (translated slender), then our minds will
follow suit – that there’s no connection between how you take care of yourself
and your health or beauty.
Do you
think that’s working? I mean
really. Look around. Just in case you have not noticed, we are
losing the battle to create healthy bodies – and it hurts us inside AND out.
So learning
a new way to live – one that creates enough self-care and positive self-talk is
really important. But how are we to know
which conversations are positive and which ones are negative?
I have four
FAVORITE sayings that could be interpreted all different ways. However, I want
to use this forum to have a great discussion on positivity, discernment and
self love!
No way! I love the expression NO
WAY. Ask any of my friends and they will tell you. Why?
Because, all over the place, it expresses a sense of awe and
wonder. You lost ten pounds? NO WAY!
You got your MBA? NO WAY!
You ran an extra mile? WOW, NO WAY! What NO
WAY is saying is YES WAY…it
is fun and affirming is what it is…You get the picture. YES WAY!
Tues: You’re kidding me? Equally ambiguous and amazing is the phrase,
“Are you kidding me?” I love this
phrase, because like all questions, it gets the dialogue started – the other
guy is almost compelled to say, “Nope, it’s true.” It takes what is obviously wonderful news and
validates it back and forth between two people and then it continues the conversation.
It says, I want to hear more! “I
stopped being afraid of my fat rear and took an aerobics class.” “Wow, you’re kidding me?”
Wed: No worries. I love the phrase NO
WORRIES because it immediately releases
another human being from whatever albatross is around their neck (and remember,
we often EAT over those things that weigh us down with shame, blame or
worry). It is bigger than don’t worry
about it somehow, and yet it does not invalidate the person’s struggle. It simply says that in this moment, between
you and I, you may let go of your burden.
No worries. I picked up NO WORRIES when I was in Australia and
it somehow followed me back up here from down under. I notice more and more
people in America
saying NO WORRIES instead of NO PROBLEM.
Thurs: Get out (of here)! Okay, if you know me
personally, my favorite saying is GET
OUT (some times I add the “of here”)!
It is as sweet and funny as an expression could be, because I don’t want
anyone to get out! I want everyone to come on in and join the
party! So there’s kind of an inside joke
there. For me, it’s the combination of
all of the above sayings with a little twist of humor. As I’ve learned with twenty-one years of
maintaining a 100-pound weight loss, HUMOR
is a wonderful tool in ANY situation. Think
of Elaine in Seinfeld. How many times did she scream, “GET OUT OF HERE” as we all cracked up? You must watch some old
Seinfeld episodes if you have not watched the show. Elaine is a hoot and this
is one of her signature lines.
Fri:
The bottom
line is that what we say is SO important.
It’s important to the person we’re speaking with, but it’s even MORE
important to us. Every word is like a
bite of food. Ask yourself today: “Am I feeding myself healthy, positive
words? Or am I filling my belly with
negative self-talk and starving my heart and soul?” The truth is that the more positive we are,
the better our lives will be, inside and out.
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